Before (Trilogy) was recommended by a friend who knows how much I love watching movies; especially, romantic movies. The trilogy includes Before Sunrise (1995), Before Sunset (2004), and Before Midnight (2013). The reason that I chose Before Sunset as the title of this post is before sunset is my favorite moment. To me, it is the most beautiful time of the day.
I have watched hundreds of movies so far but this is the first movie that I write a post about. This is convincing enough of how much I love this movie.
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I was so glad to finally watch it. Every time, I watch classic films, I always feel bad and asked myself “How could I miss such a great movie like this?” I watched the trilogy in three nights in a row. The movies were so good. I really love it. I love the storylines, the dialogues, the actor/actress, the filming location, and the ending. However, I cried like a baby in the final movie. It was not because the movie was sad but it was because of the reality hit me hard at that time. I have learned a lot from the movies and I feel so connected to the actress in some aspects. We share some common interests and thoughts and surprisingly, we share the same educational background and career goal.
The first movie, Before Sunrise, was good but somehow it was kind of unrealistic to me. It was actually a real-life experience of the director. However, I don’t think that kind of connection exists in real life. I believe he might have experienced similar thing but it might be also his imagination of how it should be. I don’t refer to their relationship or the moment they spent together but I refer to the connection and chemistry that the two shared in a short period of time. It was unrealistically amazing! That would be wonderful if it was true but until now I’m not convinced enough to think that it was real.
The thing that I really love about the movie is how they were so honest and open up about themselves to each other. I wish in real life, people are brave enough to openly say what they want to say and tell someone how they truly feel instead of playing hard-to-get or mind-game. Yet, we decide to keep it to ourselves because of pride and high self-esteem.
It was a not a special scene but it was the sweetest scene in the movie. They were just sitting in front of each other and pretend to call their friends and talk about their feeling. Celine told Jesse how she feels about him like what she would have told her friend about him. Instead of telling somebody else about how we feel about someone, we should tell that person directly like what we tell our best friends. In reality, instead of telling that person directly, we tell someone else whom we feel safe to talk to. You know why? It’s because of ego and pride. We are afraid of being rejected, judged, and most importantly, we are afraid of losing that person. We are afraid that that person might think we are weak, emotional, or dramatic. That’s the reason we don’t open ourselves to a person we like.
I feel every word she said. Sometimes, I still live in a fairytale, where love is so beautiful, where love is something pink and sweet. I still believe in true love and a happy ending. On the other hand, I also want to accept the fact that it is not. I still cannot accept how the world goes. It is hard for me to accept someone into my life again. Every time I did, I ended up being disappointed and broken. Living in a fairytale is somehow better than living in reality. It is the stupidest denial I have ever had in my life.
The last 30 minutes of the movie was when I cried so hard. No matter how beautiful your relationship was in the beginning, no matter how much you love each other, you will inevitably have a fight. It is a matter of how you confront it. To avoid it or to deal with it. My heart was broken when Celine said “You know what the problem is? The problem is I don’t love you anymore“. At that time, Jesse was paranoid and couldn’t move. I cried and said please don’t end it like this.
Their relationship would have ended if Jesse didn’t go after her but he eventually did. He went after her, to remind her how much they loved each other and how special their first date was. He went after her because he loves her. He doesn’t want to lose her. I was thinking about reality. Would someone really brave enough to go after someone after a big fight? Maybe not? Maybe their ego and anger are too strong that could hold them from saying sorry and making up right after the fight.
What I learned from these movies is that “Don’t be afraid to take a chance/risk for someone you love. Trust your instinct because true love doesn’t come often. It comes only once or twice and if we screw it then we will regret later on.”
Then I asked myself, have I met my true love yet? Have I already screwed my true love? There were some people who came into my life and walked out eventually. So how do I know if one of them was the one? I hope I haven’t met him yet. I hope I will know that he is the one as soon as I meet him. I hope I won’t screw it. I hope I will be given the last chance.
Isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more?Celine, Before Sunrise.
So often in my life, I’ve been with people and shared beautiful moments like traveling or staying up all night and watching the sunrise, and I knew it was a special moment, but something was always wrong. I wished I’d been with someone else. I knew that what I was feeling – exactly what was so important to me.Celine, Before Sunrise.
I always feel this pressure of being a strong and independent icon of womanhood, and without making it look my whole life is revolving around some guy. But loving someone, and being loved means so much to me. We always make fun of it and stuff. But isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more?Celine, Before Sunrise.
You can never replace anyone because everyone is made up of such beautiful specific details.Celine, Before Sunset.
I guess when you’re young, you just believe there’ll be many people with whom you’ll connect with. Later in life, you realize it only happens a few times.Celine, Before Sunset
“You’re just like the little girls and everybody else. You wanna live inside some fairytale. I’m just trying to make things better. I tell you that I love you unconditionally, I tell you that you’re beautiful, I tell you that your ass looks great when you’re 80. I try to make you laugh. f you want true love, then this is it. This is real life. It’s not perfect, but it’s real.”Jesse, Before Midnight.
I see the people that do the real work, and what in a way is really sad is that the people that are often the most giving, hardworking, and capable of making this world better don’t really have the ambition and ego to be a leader—they don’t see any interest in the rewards, they don’t care if their names ever appear in the press, they actually enjoy the process of helping others, they are truly in the moment.Celine, Before Sunset.